“I Hate You God” Chapter 34

Have you ever made the statement, “I hate God right now?" "Why did He do this to me?" Truth is, God doesn’t hate you and would never do anything to hurt you.

There will come a time when a loved one gets sick or dies and we question "WHY?" We don’t know how to adjust from the loss in our lives so we find someone or thing to blame it on.

When we lose someone close to us, we can fall into a funk and not be happy for a very long time. We somehow forget we were happy before we met this loved one. We lose ourselves in our new reality, and leave people and our faith behind. When the reality,is we need people and God the most during our loss. We also don’t need sympathizers; we need a positive person who gives us a good kick in the ass to get back up.

I have known friends who stay in the loss and do not allow themselves the opportunity to be truly happy again. You watch them struggle day by day in their depression over a loss. They move from friend to friend pushing them away, surrounding themselves with negativity. They find reasons for why something happened to them and blame God. Statements like, “If there was a God, why did this happen?” Our answer is usually, “They are in a better place," or, "I’m sorry for your loss."

The same feelings also hold true for those who are going through the long battle of disease themselves. We make statements like, “why is this happening to him/her? He/she is such a good person." All of these statements are negative in nature and really do no good.

Proverbs 8:36

Verse Concepts

“But he who sins against me injures himself;

All those who hate me loves death”

I have never met a sick person who always spoke about dying having a full recovery, but I know many people who stayed positive and enjoyed a full recovery. The body needs the positive energy to heal.

So where does the positive energy come from? How does a person in need find it? I believe it comes from the people and faith that surrounds us. Statements like, “Why did God let this happen?” and, “I hate God for doing this” is merely a way a person is trying to express grief and they need us to help them find God and happiness again.

Let’s change the narrative from negative to positive. Instead of, "I’m sorry you lost your hair," ask them what they think it will look like when it grows back? Instead, "I’m sorry for your loss," share a happy or funny memory. Nothing says you cannot laugh again. Let’s talk about something that went well at work instead of negative results. I personally love when speaking to friends about some dumb shit I did in the past that was funny.

1 John 4:718

7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.

8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

If you are saying you hate God or you are angry at God then you must believe God exists and you need someone to help you get back to Him.

If you are a friend of this person, then help them find that love for God and life again. Let us all lift them up and find happiness again after loss or during a struggle. It is our job as family, friends, and neighbors to do exactly that. Let’s change, “ I Hate God” to, “I Love God” for all the blessings in our lives.

It took me a long time to understand and I’m still learning, but everyday is a better one for loving what God has to offer. Before, I would never talk about my relationship with God out of fear it would offend someone. I did not know how to help someone who would say, “I Hate God” until I found my church, read my devotional daily, and surrounded myself wile loving friends and family. Now I am here to hold your hand and tell you that you are looking good today. The sun shines on you face and I see the glow of happiness.

I pray we all find happiness and a love for your faith again. I pray the pain of a loss eases over time and you feel loved again. I pray you find someone to help you when you need and that we are able to reach out and help without walking by.

You don’t know what miracles can come from broken pieces until the broken pieces are mended.

Love and blessings